Background: An applicant approached the District Legal Services Authority (DLSA) office seeking help with her deteriorating marital life. She reported experiencing mental, physical, and sexual violence from her husband. She highlighted issues such as forced physical relations, beatings, and being given contraceptive medicines without consent, which caused her physical discomfort.
Initial Steps: During the initial Individual counseling session, the applicant expressed her desire for her husband (the respondent) to be counseled. She was advised to practice relaxation techniques, adopt family planning strategies, improve her nutrition, and engage in stress-relieving activities such as listening to devotional music. The counselor encouraged her to participate in awareness programs organized by her workplace to build self-confidence and reduce stress. A legal notice was sent to the respondent, summoning him to attend a counseling session.
Progression of Counseling Sessions:
1. First Session:
The applicant was advised on family budgeting and self-reliance. She was encouraged to restart her job to improve her confidence and resolve financial stress. The respondent did not appear despite the legal notice. The applicant provided a new address for the respondent, and mindfulness techniques were introduced to help her develop a positive outlook.
2. Second Session:
Again, the respondent was absent despite being sent a notice. The applicant expressed her determination to take control of her life. She shared her plan to seek a divorce and custody of her children if reconciliation attempts failed.
3. Third Session:
The respondent remained absent despite repeated legal notices. The applicant reaffirmed her decision to prioritize her well-being and that of her children. The counselor continued to support her emotionally and legally.
4. Fourth Session:
Both the applicant and the respondent attended. Individual and couple counseling sessions were conducted to explore the root causes of their conflict. Initially, both parties focused on each other’s shortcomings. Through guided discussion and the use of the topic shift technique, the counselor directed them toward constructive solutions. The respondent expressed his willingness to reconcile but blamed the applicant for being untruthful. The applicant stated she had no desire to continue the relationship. Both were asked to reflect on their priorities and bring their children to the next session.
5. Fifth Session (Follow-Up):
Neither party attended due to the respondent’s ill health. However, follow-up conversations revealed a significant breakthrough: both parties had decided to reconcile. They reported that they were now living together peacefully with their children and had resolved their differences. Both expressed gratitude to the DLSA and requested closure of the counseling process.
Outcome: The counseling process facilitated open communication, helped address deep-seated grievances, and empowered both parties to make informed decisions. The couple resolved their differences and reunited, creating a harmonious environment for themselves and their children.
Conclusion: This case highlights the effectiveness of matrimonial counseling provided by DLSA in resolving complex marital disputes. Through persistent efforts, structured guidance, and legal support, the couple achieved reconciliation, restoring peace and happiness in their family life.